In a previous post I mentioned a note that my daughter was passing at school. I know it was very vague, and I wanted to clarify what that was all about.
First of all, she had a class last year in the 5th grade that taught the basics of sex education. Boy and girl body parts, the proper names for them, how they are used to create a baby and different body changes each gender experiences.
I was glad for the class because I had already given her the talk on "that time of the month" and I wanted her to know the rest of the basics, of which I knew they'd do a better job explaining then I could.
Since then we have had various discussions and the main thing I have always told her is that if she had any questions or concerns whatsoever, then she could always talk to me. No matter what, I will never be mad and she won't be in trouble. End of story.
Well last week, in the after school daycare she was passing notes with her friend and it started out innocent enough. After the front of the page was filled with conversation, the backside started to fill up and she mentioned to her friend that they should change the subject. To which her friend replied.
Boys, penis's, and sex.
Then Chelsea came back with the reply : Boys are hot, penis's are hotter and sex is hottest.
And that was it.
When she was caught with it (the school did not punish or fuss at her or her friend) she cried. She cried when I got there to get her, when I read the note, and the whole time we discussed it at home. Not because she was afraid. Not because she thought she'd be in trouble. Not because she thought I would holler at her ( I did not) The reason she cried was because she knew what she had done was wrong and she was truly sorry.
So basically she learned her lesson (this time) and hopefully she will be ok.
Hopefully at least until she turns 12. Lord help me!
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On a lighter note: We are headed toward the holidays. Full steam ahead. They will be here before you know it. One thing you must know about me:
I hate holidays! Absolutely. Freakin. Hate. The. Holidays.
Just call me Scrooge.
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I just hate Halloween!
Oh goodness.. I am not looking forward to that age. It is just normal curiosity but still.
I hate the holidays too. That song "It's the Most Wonderful Time of the Year" is a LIE!! We can be scrooges together!
Oh I lheart holidays...but not the 'buy the latest gift and shop with all the people at the overcrowded malls' holidays..
I make alot of home-made gifts..and bake stuff too....
I am really nit picky and the day after the holidays I have to take down the decorations..Like at the moment we have spider webs all over the place and its making my skin crawl..I want it neat and tidy..
So yeah, even once the holiday tree came down christmas night..haha lame huh?
You handled the note better than me...I can't even think about that yet.
I like the holiday's...but I hate the stress and pressure. Our family does a white elephant gift exchange (which is damn funny). We always look forward to the excitement of the hilarious things we can dig up. Putting an end to traditional gift giving was the best thing ever! Now we can focus on being together.
sounds like a lesson learned. kids! gotta love'em.
Oh man...we had a situtuation last year with a kid at my son's school. They were in 6th grade aka 11 yrs old...this boy had...well I'll just say VERY unappropriate pictures of his girlfriend on his cell phone and was showing them to kids after school!! UGH!! Kids are starting stuff WAY too early!!
Oh and I am a total scrooge too just we can't be bitchy together :)
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Wow!! I think you handled the note thing very well. Good job, Mom:-)
You definitely handled that note better than I would have. Wow, and I thought onlyy boys were hard at that age. Maybe my daughter just was never caught! lol
Hard being a parent, but seems like your doing great at teaching her. She did know it was wrong and felt bad.
Have a great day!
Sounds like you did a good job of handling the situation. I bet she was quite embarassed for getting caught too.
First of all, your daughter is at a curious age. Scary, but curious! And she was probably a little embarrassed that her mom was reading such a note.
Secondly, I am glad that you are letting your daughter know you are open to all questions and she feels comfortable asking you. My mom was like that, so one time I asked her what fingering meant. She turned pretty white from what I remember.
Lastly, how can you hate the holidays??!!! I love America because you go all out on the holidays and we don't in England, and this time of year is so magical for me. If I made you a pumpkin martini or a chaitini would that make it all better?
OMG! I remember asking you about this. I remember getting caught with a note. I think I was scared for the same reason but I had scary nuns as teachers too. Maybe I was too scared to cry. ;)
Gosh - that sounds tough. Sounds like you are doing a good job though.
Thanks for checking out my blog today. The beginning of sex talk is always tough and secretly to us parents (hilarious)Shhh!
Oh, a burgeoning pre-teen. Sigh...
Why do you hate the holidays? Because I don't want you to be unhappy for the next 2 months. I get stressed from Halloween to New Year's, but I love this time of year...I'm one of those stinkin' do-gooders, full of cheer, singing "Grandma Got Run Over By A Reindeer" all the time. Please...don't hate me.
Oh no. She HAD to have learned her lesson after that one! :)
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